Siddhartha Basu's POV- - Firmly Against the motion.

Relationship.....it's a big word with a lot of implications.It signifies a variety of emotions.It might indicate utter chaos or blissful existance.But what is the need of a relationship ? Ever since his existance man needed somebody to be with him throughout.Somebody he could confide in,somebody who would stand by him when needed and more importantly somebody who would beleive in him.Therefore he is in the constant lookout for people who he beleieves would compliment his existance.Moreover it is imperative to understand that relationships for me signify a symbiotic origin.Both the partners are equally important.

As Dok Saab himself said " Till early adolescence the child seeks all the four social needs through parents and same sex friends...namely tenderness,companionship

,acceptance,intimacy ".I will completely agree.However my question is,what happens if somebody is denied,what i will call his natural needs ? Just look around and you will know what i mean ! Today parents hardly have time for their children.They are busy earning just because their wards might have a life that they only dreamt of.With time the communication gap is ever increasing.Today the teens are expected to work extra hard so that they might brighten their future prospects.With back breaking work comes tension and stress.In in a country like India where sharing our feelings is not exactly encouraged the teens are emotioanlly very vunerable.They need someone to talk to.Sharing our feelings within the same sex is very difficult so naturally this is where the concept of teenage relationships come in.

People need to understand that we teens are more concerned about our lives than we seem.We are aware of the problems thate exist and we are more than capable of handling it ourselves.When it is expected of us to make a decision concerning our careers at this age(something which will decide our future) how is it that the older generations garner that we will be unable to decide for ourselves what is needed to maintain a healthy relationship at this age.

I totally agree that with experience comes the ability to make impeccable decisions.But can somebody tell me how does experience come from ? It comes from making your own mistakes and learning through them.Why is it expected of us to live our lives based on the escapades of somebody else ? On one side we advocate free thinking however on the other we are so clamped up and rigid.Why is it that we do not shun or prejudices and rather than being ignorant of the worlds around us open upto it.

Today that general mentality is that a teenage relationship is just about sex.People it is not.A majority of the relationships are not physical.For us teenagers a partner is symbolic of someone who we can open upto.Someone who will help us get rid of the worries we are overburdened with.There are things which cannot be shared with our parents and friends,it is here that a girlfriend or a boyfriend comes in.It may start with an imfactuation but it grows to be more serious over the time.And tell me are all adult relationships happy ? Most divorces are the result of relationships in the workplace or in colleges.It is only and only because of the reason that they rush into it.Teenage relationships helps us to understand the opposite sex better.It is more like a mutual game.

The people must understand that we are different from what we seem.Just because of certain sporadic instances u can't label the whole of us.How can u generalise your opinion just because of certain cases in the limelight ? If that is the case i should go on to say that if being in the news is concerned then i guess it's not teenage relationships but adult ones that need to be re-analysed.

For most of us relationships are like a conviction to do better.We strive hard to excel.Relationships do not breed in us insecurity but a spirit of competition.

Somethings are hard to explain.People who have grown out of our age lack the outlook we have.Today teens are mature beyond their years.They have seen and heard much.They know what is good for them and what they exactly need to do,to have something they can fall back upon in their future.

I know you are concerned about us and all u want is good for us.....

BUT ALL I WANT TO SAY IS LET US LEARN FROM OUR OWN MISTAKES........