Romeo was 16 and Juliet, 13, when they fell in love. Their love story is one of the most fabled love story, but with what a tragic end. Both committed suicide.
Ms Moderator and My dear friends!!.
The topic on the floor of the house (or should we say, on the pages of the blog) is
"Being Romantically Committed At 17 Does Not Make Sense !!!"
and I am here presenting my views for the motion.
My opponents may not see the view from my angle, because from the height of experience I am looking at the topic, they can not fathom at this stage of their lives.
Love is the most revered, most beautiful emotion of all human emotions. No one can ever be against love.I too am not against love. But I am against being committed in a teenage crush or Puppy love.
Love has varying meaning at different stages of life. The nature and intensity of love changes as one matures from childhood to adulthood. This change (of nature of love) is because of the changing social needs of the child as she grows. During infancy the child needs only tenderness, which she gets from her mother. Later the needs add like companionship during childhood, acceptance during juvenile age, intimacy during early adolescence and sexuality during late adolescence and adulthood. Till early adolescence the child seeks all the four social needs through parents and same sex friends. But when the need of sexuality arises, all the five needs are sought in the romantic associations.
Earlier than eighteen they may confuse intimacy, acceptance, companionship and tenderness as Love, and become committed, but at this young age a person in not so much psychologically mature that they can understand the consequences of being committed. What they thinks is love, may not be love, just a crush, or what we call as puppy love. They get attracted towards some extraneous features of their loved one, like that dimple when she smiles, which tend to loose the charm after a period of time. But by the time they realize , its usually too late. The time has gone past, and the poor lover is left alone, broken and disheartened.
My advice to my teenage friends is that they have but few more steps towards adulthood. They must build a foundation for themselves that is strong so that it doesn't crumble later on. Don't be very possessive or obsessive with your love life. Just move on. Don't be committed Buy time with your love, see whether this relationship stands the test of time. Know that for a relationship to stand the test of time, both partners need to adjust to the lifestyles of each other. First strive to attain financial independence, which is most important in the context of relationships.
Adolescence and teenage is a period when you are being prepared to enter adulthood. So you can experiment but without being committed romantically, as that will bring unforeseen troubles. I can site several examples of teens ruining their career because of love and later repenting.
Thank You
Ms Moderator and My dear friends!!.
The topic on the floor of the house (or should we say, on the pages of the blog) is
"Being Romantically Committed At 17 Does Not Make Sense !!!"
and I am here presenting my views for the motion.
My opponents may not see the view from my angle, because from the height of experience I am looking at the topic, they can not fathom at this stage of their lives.
Love is the most revered, most beautiful emotion of all human emotions. No one can ever be against love.I too am not against love. But I am against being committed in a teenage crush or Puppy love.
Love has varying meaning at different stages of life. The nature and intensity of love changes as one matures from childhood to adulthood. This change (of nature of love) is because of the changing social needs of the child as she grows. During infancy the child needs only tenderness, which she gets from her mother. Later the needs add like companionship during childhood, acceptance during juvenile age, intimacy during early adolescence and sexuality during late adolescence and adulthood. Till early adolescence the child seeks all the four social needs through parents and same sex friends. But when the need of sexuality arises, all the five needs are sought in the romantic associations.
Earlier than eighteen they may confuse intimacy, acceptance, companionship and tenderness as Love, and become committed, but at this young age a person in not so much psychologically mature that they can understand the consequences of being committed. What they thinks is love, may not be love, just a crush, or what we call as puppy love. They get attracted towards some extraneous features of their loved one, like that dimple when she smiles, which tend to loose the charm after a period of time. But by the time they realize , its usually too late. The time has gone past, and the poor lover is left alone, broken and disheartened.
My advice to my teenage friends is that they have but few more steps towards adulthood. They must build a foundation for themselves that is strong so that it doesn't crumble later on. Don't be very possessive or obsessive with your love life. Just move on. Don't be committed Buy time with your love, see whether this relationship stands the test of time. Know that for a relationship to stand the test of time, both partners need to adjust to the lifestyles of each other. First strive to attain financial independence, which is most important in the context of relationships.
Adolescence and teenage is a period when you are being prepared to enter adulthood. So you can experiment but without being committed romantically, as that will bring unforeseen troubles. I can site several examples of teens ruining their career because of love and later repenting.
Thank You
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